My darling wife K is having a tough time right now. She says she hates her job…she doesn’t feel “fulfilled” by it. She days I’m a guy and I don’t get it. Honestly, no I don’t. Of course I understand what it means to be “fulfilled”, but I don’t think too many people look to their employment for fulfillment. A few…doctors, nurses, teachers, ministers, police and fire fighters, scientists finding cures for dreaded diseases, maybe a few others…yes. But I don’t see many office workers, factory workers, barbers, parking lot attendants, plumbers, painters, etc feeling “fulfilled” by their jobs. I don’t think that’s the goal of most employers or employees. Most of us just go to work, do whatever our job demands of us, we get our paycheck, hopefully some benefits too, maybe a little vacation time, and just go from day to day. A job is the means, not the end.
We look for “fulfillment” from our spouses and our kids, our families and our friends, seeing them grow and thrive. We might find it in travel, seeing things in person we’ve seen in books or on TV, things we’ve dreamed of all our lives. Accomplishing something, like finally getting that college degree, might for many be fulfilling. Seeing your children get married, or have kids of their own, might be fulfilling.
Of course it would be great to have a job that you like, pays well, and enables you to “make a difference”. That is seldom the case these days. Is K expecting too much? Am I too shallow in my expectations?
S